You need to stop overthinking.
I am an overthinker, just like you.
But here’s the problem: Overthinkers don’t get shit done.
On the surface, it seems like a good trait.
Like something an intelligent person would possess.
And sure, there can be a few benefits to being a deep thinker.
It’s gotten you out of some sticky situations.
Maybe it’s saved you from a catastrophic blunder or two.
But life, as we all know, is extraordinarily complex.
So much so that no one has EVER figured it all out, and no one ever will.
This includes us.
But yet, we overthink every little situation.
Even with my own YouTube channel you’re reading this off of, I have had countless periods of paraplegia.
Overthinking every little thing.
What type of editing should I do? What type of videos do I make? What’s my niche? What’s the Perfect thumbnail
concept? Perfect description?
All the while- 0 subscribers were earned, 0 new views, 0 posted videos, and 0 channel momentum.
Even if I landed on an idea, I would get caught up in all the other bs.
The same goes for approaching and meeting girls.
I would overthink.
“She looks mean.”
“She looks busy.”
“I don’t know what to say”
“I don’t wanna bother her.”
“Will she like me?”
Again, stagnation. No girls approached.
No lessons learned.
Why do we do this?
Not out of intelligence.
Because of ego.
Yes.
Ego. We think that if we stop and think long and hard enough, we’ll devise the perfect solution. Then and ONLY then
will we take action. Because we have the ideal plan now, right? There’s no way we can fail, right?
When you spell it out like that, suddenly, that paradigm doesn’t sound very intelligent.
An intelligent person knows that no matter how much they think through it, they won’t have the perfect answer.
Something out of our control is always affecting things.
But the overthinker spends so much time deciding that he’s paralyzed. He doesn’t do either thing he’s choosing between.
The truth Is that overthinking, more often than not, doesn’t even land you on a concrete answer.
You just end up in a cycle of “what ifs.” You weigh worst-case scenarios, and every answer feels wrong. They all
have downsides.
Lots of mental laps, but your displacement is 0.
I’m letting you in on a little secret.
Your brain doesn’t hold all the answers to life. So why do you consult it so much with every decision?
If we’re being honest, your brain says ALL KINDS of madness. 24/7. You wouldn’t dare tell anyone else about things
out of fear for your reputation.
Your brain has convinced you to do numerous things you’re ashamed of.
So why do you trust it so much? Why do you run everything through your brain first?
The truth is that you are not your brain. You are not your thoughts.
You’re just experiencing those thoughts. It doesn’t mean you need to give weight to them, let alone allow them to paralyze you in analysis.
Start going with your gut more.
And trust you’ll be able to handle whatever comes of that.
You learn infinitely more from trying and failing than any amount of thinking you do to try and circumvent it.
I cannot even begin to describe the huge weight that has lifted off my back since I realized this.
I don’t overthink nearly as much anymore.
This isn’t because I’ve figured everything out to the point where I don’t need to.
It’s because I’ve accepted that I don’t.
I make a decision. Deal with the consequences later.
If I see a cute girl, I go up to her.
If I choose not to, I don’t, and I move on with my life. I don’t linger on it.
This has done wonders for my confidence.
This is not about the big life-changing decisions; life partner, moving, these requires deep thought.
This is for the small, everyday, harmless decisions, chocolate or vanilla, Running the yellow light or stopping, working deep or busy, or going to the gym or no gym. (just go)
Just choose one and move on.
You’ll be fine either way.
Once you adopt this mindset, I’m telling you. It’s so freeing.
I got tired of being a prisoner of my mind.
This is how you escape the yard.
When you make quick and bolder decisions and they turn out well, you’ll officially start viewing the world differently.
Because more often than not, you—your gut, your conciseness—know the right answer. You are just overcomplicating it by trying to weigh every outcome.
If you’re tired of being in your head like I was and ready to take action—whether it’s fitness, mindset, or starting
something new—I’ve got a free ebook that can help. Everything I’ve learned is in there. Grab it on my profile or here: https://seethedubs.gumroad.com/. There is no perfect plan. Just start.